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Thanks to the magic of the internet, today we are doing a joint post with the Dr. Karen whom I’ve only known for a few weeks. We bumped into one another through our cartoon series on the “Our Love Life” and we decided to collaborate on a common post. Karen writes the main content and we do a summary and also the creative cartoon. The topic we agreed upon was suggested by Karen: trying to change the other in a couple.

In her article, Dr. Karen speaks about the expectation that some people have upon entering into a relationship. She says that some people believe that he or she will be able to change the traits of the other person — whether the traits are undesirable, somewhat irritating, or just a new behaviour they’d like the mate to have.

However, to maintain such an expectation is a recipe for disillusion and frustration. You can invest a lot of time and energy into trying to change someone but most of the time, even if it works for a little while, the original behaviour will return, in one form or another.

Change can be done but only if someone really wants to. Yet, it is a difficult process and, therefore, people often don’t change. Certainly, trying to get someone else to change is even harder, as well as inappropriate.

Enjoy the cartoon and share your thoughts and stories with us. To read the full article, go to Dr. Karen Sherman’s blog